Ways to irritate my husband like he does with me?

Never thought I would be asking this someday, but Im upset and want ideas on how to get back on my husband for being the way he is sometimes! And dont come tell me that he needs his space cuz he gets enough space as it is! Anyway..Im a mom of an 18 month baby and my husband has 4 year old that I also help take care of. I work full time during the week, come home make dinner, put kids to bed etc (he does the light job). I deep clean my home on the weekends, take crare of our laundry make sure its ironed and neat in the closet etc..I admit I am a perfectionist..but even when I try to relax some and not go crazy about every little detail, its still hard with small kids. So hubby stays home during the week and djs on the weekends. I have put up with the fact I need to stay home by myself, or with kids but they make me work, and Im ok with that if it means he has to work. But when it comes to something personal (outside of work) then I would love to be included in the plans since I hardly ever go anywhere but work! So today before stepping out the there he says "by the way Im going to a birthday party when Im done djing ( he finished pretty early @ 8pm). Great! so Im stuck home with no access to my pc, no cable tv, no one to talk to just bored to death..and he tells me he`s going to a party that this friend (girl) didnt bother inviting me to go with him at least out of respect ..and even if she didnt think it would bother me...y couldnt he have thought about me? of how I spend my whole day taking care of our house, kids and his stuff? How is it fair in his mind that I stay home on a saturday night while he`s out at a party? He does go out with friends sometimes..I dont always ask to go with him, so he cant use the excuse that he needs "his space". Im the type of person that needs to see people n talk in order to relax, if im stuck home all the time I become grumpy...I think he knows that by now... Anyway any ideas?